What is life of riley? Depends on. Take an example, you have a full-time course you like meanwhile do a part-time job at your spare time, which could make you achieve a sort of balance both mentally and physically. No worry about room rent, car gasoline fee, energy bill and other family expense, that's your husband concern. Can you call it a kind of life of Riley? Someone will agree absolutely, especially those guys who are having high work stress. But you don' enjoy it fully. Why? You are reluctant to be kept away from the society and hope to move on for your ideal job-office work. Maybe that looks stupid idea even cannot be understood, but that is exactly what you want.

 

You are trying to be part of mainstream (workwise). But if there are others from your background, you can probably choose how much you want to 'acculturate' and be involved in the mainstream, and how much autonomy you want, depending on where the jobs are of course. In some places you can stay entirely within Overseas Chinese society if you want. In other cases you may have to work in the mainstream. If they need your skills you should be alright. If not, don't expect anything wonderful, many employers are not very multicultural (that's true in China too, isn't it? you employ a foreigner if you need them, not otherwise). If you have skills and can't find suitable work, you may have to take what you can get, and start again. Some people spent a lot of time and money and effort retraining - whether it pays off or not is hard to say - ask around. As a minority person, don't expect your voice or views to be reflected in the mainstream media.

 

However, this evening I am upset because I come across a rude Korean girl. When I finish wrapping the flowers she wants with paper, she snaps at,"the bottome is wet, how can I hold it?" then I have to wrap again with clear paper. At that time, I have a little angry with her attitude. You could tell me with another way instead of this kind of way---in my mind. I leash my rage to change her money. Maybe I still think her impoliteness and then I give her a five note and 2-dollar coin actually it should be $20 note and 2-dollar coin. The laday shouts at me,"$22!" I almost burst out at that moment.  But I cannot because that's my fault. Afterwards, Michill tells me she had same experience happened to this girl this morning. How could she treat others more politely? But what If I were a girl with blond hair and blue eyes?

自从上课以来,每天中午已经习惯吃Bread with Ham and Cheese,澳洲的生活早已让我对吃是可望不可及,而且学些西方人的习惯也没什么不好。但说实话，谁不想吃得好，但自己太懒，能够给老公做饭，已经是天上掉馅饼了，自己就将就将就吧。每天吃那些高能量的东西，也没觉得如何，但同学看不下去了，今天Rui Hui（我实在不知道是哪两个字）居然给我带了一盒午饭，有红烧肉，炖牛肉土豆和卤蛋。我真是太感动了，几乎要weeping，要不是有同学在，我的眼泪一定会流下，因为我实在是个爱哭的女人，最见不得别人对我好。

 

在异乡，能有人这样对你好，实在是难能可贵的，朋友在这里尤为觉得珍贵，更何况这样的朋友，哎，我好高兴啊！来TAFE上课，值！

 

 

 

 

 

To some degree, I am absolutely a loser in my career path,just look at my qualification:

*Bachelor---Engineering

*Master in China---Human Resource

*Master in Australia---Logistics

*Certificate (now)---Accounting

 

They look so beautiful and have taken me 30 years even is still taking my life. It seems that I have touched several fields, but I get nothing until now except these valueless certifications. Now my situation is I am unemployed and only  have to sell flower sometimes for pocket money.

 

Worse luck, I have not got something that are looked as very important things to lady who are over 30 year old. No kids, no house, no car, no taste, no good health, no beauty, no ability to cook yummy,...... even I usually get my life in imbroglio. I am also a loser in life.

 

Apparently, I lost myself. What did I get? What will I want? Where am I going? Where can I go? ............

 

Help, help, help,help, help, help,help.....

 

 

The shocking thing is Wei is married with a girl just after they knew less than half a year ago. A month ago, Sunny, my former classmate at language school, married with a girl who has gangdom background here. The world is upside down. What’s up? What are those guys doing and where are they going?

 

Now I have to talk about marriage. Recently I am reading a novel written by Xilingxue, a popular author in China. She provides incisive analysis on marriage, man and woman, in her words, which makes me ponder about this topic again although I always try to figure out what it is.

 

Marriage is made of men and women who are playing their own roles have already arranged in the world. In the past, men were providers for families while women were responsible to do housework. With the development of society, women are trying to get equality on status although it will be a long way. On the marriage balance, female always are supposed to be leading role in looking after kids and taking charge in house chores. Then men think their wives only do some insignificant things at home when they are working outside. Countless women are struggleing for equal role in marriage and have got a little bit improvement. However, it seems women have to accept their fate in their families because, whatever, the reality is men apparently get more opportunities than women in the society. Finally men usually are dominators in family or marriage.

 

Divorce is not big deal particularly in western countries. You can do anything if you want, the only reason for that is you are happy. Sex freedom, activity freedom, value freedom, belief freedom, marriage freedom…..Is that good? So what? Happiness is the most important.

 

Some persons get married because they fall in live despite they are not aware of what their family responsibility are at the time they walk into the marriage. But after-married life is not as beautiful as they think and all kinds of household affairs happen on them. They suddenly realize what marriage does mean. Meanwhile some married people don’t know how to cherish their marriage. The typical thing now is lots of rich men have other lovers at their other houses and speak loudly they need mental companions when they couldn’t get total understanding from their real wives. Actually those respectable wives are busy as nanny, kid’s mum or housekeeper at their home, without spare time to learn something so as to catch up with their husbands. That is a kind of sacrifice! What a pity they are getting involved in family trifle while their husbands are enjoying with other women.   

 

In this case, the best way is not-married. Not hurt others, not break others’ lives, not regret what you have done.     

Today I go to QVB to buy a piece SWAROVSKI necklace, which is deer-type and golden-polish. It fascinates me to damn well, especially after I know crystal can bring me luck this year.

 

For more than one hundred years, SWAROVSKI crystal has been filling people's lives with joy, fantasy ans style.  SWAROVSKI jewelry pieces are individually hand-set with creatively cut crystal, their unique designs range from timeless and classic to fashionable and modern.... Haha, I am making free advertisement for SWAROVSKI.

 

My sister likes its design very much so that she has got several pieces necklace from Europe by my sister-in-law. I believe every single woman cannot be able to run away when she sees it at the first sight. Crystal can make me imagine many dreams, Prince Charming, Snow Princess, Palace, ......whatever,I hope it can bring me happiness.

 

 

---

什么十幸福?不是突然想起这个话题,每天都在思考,都在寻找,都在体会。

 

卖花时看到对面椅子上坐着的父亲和他旁边奔跑的三个孩子,我觉得那是幸福。也许父亲失去了孩子母亲的爱，但他拥有世界上最宝贵的亲情，当他抱起摔到在地上最小的女儿时，我能体会他的爱。当他对他正在玩游戏的大儿子说话时，我能看出他的关爱。黄昏，他们一家四口离开Martin Place，往家走时，我真的被感动了，是不是我太容易感动？我不知道，反正我会被世上很多细小的举动触动。

 

我的邻居1号希腊爷爷，去年失去了老伴。她老伴离开前，经常奶奶站在旁边看爷爷修草，那时我觉得多幸福的夫妻。虽然爷爷每天只有两件工作，修草浇花和发动汽车，日子是平静和规律的，但那是他们两儿的世界。

 

前些天想装个英文的office软件，但从国内只带了中文的，这边买又很贵，通过MSN和国内的朋友说了一下，马上就去给我刻，我还没从MSN下线，她已经自费EXPRESS给我。从中国啊！我当时流出了眼泪，对，我是非常爱哭，特别是这类事情感动。我是脆弱的，我受不了朋友对我的爱，他人对我的好我总会记住一辈子。

 

周五晚上，老公在Wolli Greek车站接我，当我上车坐在他旁边时，他自然地递给我一包五香豆腐干，然后发动汽车。但我几乎要流泪，真的，瞬间我感受到幸福。我们走过十几年的路，早已没有激情，也许我们的感情目前只是一种亲情。但其实爱情可以是亲情，友情......

 

爱，这个字，太重了，它带给人太多的快乐，也太给人太多的痛苦。享受瞬间的幸福其实是最重要的，但要看你是否懂得寻找它。